We all have personal qualities, but only very few of us are aware of theirs. With personal qualities I’m referring our talents, our skills, our expertise and our social character - our capabilities to bring value to our environment.
At the time I’m writing this I’m on a vacation, taking a step back from daily business and aligning my plans for the future. This is where I became aware of a paradox that I like to call the Personal Qualities Paradox.
As I’m thinking through what I’ve accomplished so far and what projects I’m going to tackle in the next months, my thoughts drifted towards implementing my personal qualities in my everyday routines. I want to focus on what I’m good at and let others help me with topics that aren’t my strengths.
Since this requires knowing my personal qualities, I’m writing this post. It took me months to uncover my natural talents, my personal qualities that can be marketed to people in order to make a living.
When I started my first business in April 2012, I had no idea about my personal qualities - and today I get numerous emails from people in a similar situation.
I really appreciate that you’re following my journey in online business and asking me for advice. That’s why I decided not only to respond to every email I get, but to share the answers publicly.
And I think that personal qualities paradox is a great topic to start with.
Your personal qualities are your foundation for confidence and self esteem. It’s your skills, your abilities, your expertise, your experiences and your opinion that allow you to interact with others on a day-to-day basis.
Those factors control whether people respect and pay attention to you, because you’re sharing information of value for others - or whether people ignore you, because all you can add to the discussion is nonsense.
In order to have a high self esteem, society tells us to work on our „weaknesses“ instead of embracing our personal qualities. We’re told to learn about things we’re below average, just to acquire mediocre skills that everyone else has too.
What if we instead empower those personal qualities we already have?
In the fields were we can use our natural talents and personal qualities, we’ll see much bigger results than others.
In those areas we’ll stand out of the masses, which isn’t often seen positively.
“The nail that sticks out gets hammered down.” - Japanese saying
We want to achieve goals that are way above the average of our society. We want to earn more money, drive bigger cars, have more free time, travel around the world, and lots of other goals that most people in our society won’t ever achieve.
And still we’re scared to stand out of the masses by using our natural talents.
This is a paradox situation.
We want to have a lifestyle that’s better than the mediocre lifestyle of our society, but we’re scared to take more action than people living the mediocre lifestyle.
But what is it that makes us scared?
Using our natural talents and personal qualities allows us to take actions that others won’t ever take. Thus those people tend to pull us down because we’re showing them what they are missing. Instead they should be happy for us when we’re achieving a goal because we’ve taken a risk.
There are several wrong believes in our society that prevent us from embracing our personal qualities - yet we should.
„You cannot be anything you want to be - but you can be a lot more of who you already are.“ - Tom Rath
It’s time for us to uncover our personal qualities and to use them!
It’s time to start focusing on our strengths and to integrate them in our daily lives!
It’s time to build our dreams instead of working for someone else and building his dream!
You can see in my income reports how I change my life by using my personal qualities to make an income online. Those reports are 100% transparent because I want you to achieve the same freedom I’m experiencing right now.
I’m not any better or smarter than you and I also started not knowing what I was doing. The trick is to get started and to learn on the way.
When you’re leveraging your personal qualities you can achieve goals faster than people lacking those qualities. It’s just about finding your personal qualities and leveraging those in the best possible way!
I hope this post opened your eyes and explained why you shouldn't let the personal qualities paradox take control about embracing your personal qualities! You are good enough with who you already are to achieve the goals you're aiming at!